Change Your Whole Life in ONE Small, Easy Step!

Digger unveils the key to big life changes in one small, easy step.

Would you ever consider jumping from first floor of a building to the second floor in a single leap? Of course not! You would look for an easier route – like the elevator or the staircase. The elevator is outside assistance and the staircase is a series of small, easy, achievable steps to elevate yourself to the next level: one small step at a time.

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Bottom Pride: Courtesy Bottom Turns 10!

As we reach the end of Pride Month on this 10 year anniversary since “Puddles, the Courtesy Bottom” was born (literally, from my ass), Digger reflects on Bottom Pride…

Bottom shaming is still standard comic du rigueur, even amongst otherwise enlightened homosexuals. “Oh, she’s a big ole bottom” and similar comments are common quips intended to spark laughs because it overlies the underlying assumption that bottoms are to be laughed at. Why are we hurling homophobia at each other? It’s long time for  BOTTOM PRIDE.
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Digger Joins Choral Workshop as “Lead Velociraptor”

Digger steps out of his comfort zone to join a free queer choral workshop series with Holcombe Waller at Grace Cathedral. Friendly participants politely tolerate his cawing.

Two steps out of my comfort zone. First, in a cathedral. Last time I attempted to enter a cathedral I got struck by lightening as I touched the door handle. Second step out of my comfort zone: singing. It’s out of my comfort zone to sing in private, let alone in public. Plants have instantly wilted at the sound of my voice.
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Happy Daddy “Chickpea” Brian Busta TELLS ALL!

In my very first vlog, the Community Grand Marshall of SF Pride 2018 and Creative Director of Comfort & Joy TELLS ALL! Brian Busta aka Chickpea, shares herstory and herrecipe to happiness. Enjoy!

In the ‘Happy Daddy’ series, Digger meets with folks who’ve lived to share their unique recipes for happiness.

Body Pride

Pride Month has this Digger pondering all kinds of pride. I’ve discovered that we can have body pride and still pursue healthy body change.

Confessions of a skinny teenage twinkadink

When I was growing up, beefy muscle was IN, and I was teased as the ‘skinny fag,’ There is a common misconception that teasing for being underweight is flattery but teasing for being overweight is inappropriate. Let’s be real – words have power and can lead to body shame in all sorts of directions.
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A Fanfare Blog Launch. A Fantastic Tribe.


This Digger is still aglow from a fabulous blog launch party. After months of preparation I gathered my amazing community on June 1st, 2018. This first day of Pride month made for an auspicious day to announce this blog. The fabulous Bernadette Bohan generously hosted at her super groovy art studio in the mission, The Box Factory. Continue reading “A Fanfare Blog Launch. A Fantastic Tribe.”

San Francisco LGBT Pride 2018

A daddy’s guide to San Francisco LGBT Pride 2018. Get the inside scoop from a longtime local for a fabulous Pride.

My first (and second) Pride were protest marches, not parades – 1994 New York City and 1995 Pride in London. It was a bold statement for LGBT people to march in broad daylight, showing pride against the law and a homophobic culture that still tries so hard to fill us with shame.

Marching with Pride in London 1995 (from left): Digger, Sir Ian McKellen, then-bf David

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SOMA, San Francisco Scene

Get the inside scoop from a longtime local to San Francisco’s Soma neighborhood scene.

Soma IS Daddy’s neighborhood

The Castro is cute and all, but men and Daddies thrive in SOMA (SOuth of MArket). Wider roads, more industrial, and strewn with haunts for MEN. Here are my picks for this side of town. Continue reading “SOMA, San Francisco Scene”

Castro, San Francisco Scene

Get the inside scoop from a longtime local to San Francisco’s Castro neighborhood scene.

Ahhhh, the Castro. Delightful rainbow-laden queer Mecca.  It’s what young gay boys and girls dream of. Do you remember your first time? I was just a twinky candy raver in the early 90s (Fun Fact: I really was the first candy raver of all time, but that’s another story for which my legacy leaves me questioning any pride of that. Much like Jesus and his legacy I’m sure. Just call me Candy Raver Jesus ;-). I still remember driving towards Market southbound on Castro, with the Castro theatre marquee ablaze and to my left. In front of what now is SoulCycle were two men walking and what is this?! HOLDING HANDS?!?! IN PUBLIC!?!?! GAYMEN I have found heaven!
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